When it comes to family life, it seems there’s a quiet divide happening within households: do families gather in the living room or retreat to their bedrooms after a long day? This question has sparked a lot of discussion online, with people identifying strongly as either a “living room family” or a “bedroom family.”
A viral TikTok by @alexxx1915 showing her kids playing in the living room, with a caption about ‘living room families’ quickly gained attention, with viewers sharing their experiences in the comments, some joking about barely leaving their bedrooms and others fondly recalling family time in the living room. This simple yet relatable video struck a chord, prompting a wider conversation about family dynamics in modern households.
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But what does it really mean to belong to either of these groups and which is better for family life? Let’s break it down.
What Is a Living Room Family?
A “living room family” makes the living room the hub of family interaction. This is the space where everyone gathers after work or school to watch TV, chat about their day, play board games, or just hang out together. For these families, the living room acts as the central meeting point, and it’s often seen as the heart of the home.
Pros of Living Room Families:
- More bonding time: Spending time in the same space helps families stay connected. Conversations flow easily when everyone is together, and it’s easier to create shared memories.
- Traditional setup: The living room has long been seen as the primary space for family gatherings, so many people feel nostalgic about spending time there.
- Open communication: When everyone is together, communication can happen more naturally, helping families to stay emotionally close.
Cons of Living Room Families:
- Less personal space: In large families, it can be hard to find alone time if everyone is expected to gather in the living room after a long day.
- Potential for conflict: Being in close quarters for extended periods may lead to arguments or tension, especially if family members have different ideas about how to relax.
As one TikTok user pointed out, “The living room is where the magic happens—movies, games, and all the chaos.”
What Is a Bedroom Room Family?
On the other hand, “bedroom families” are those who prefer to retreat to their individual bedrooms after the day’s activities. For them, the bedroom isn’t just a place to sleep; it’s also a personal sanctuary where they can unwind, watch TV, read, or scroll on their phones.
Pros of Bedroom Room Families:
- More privacy: For families that need space to recharge, having personal time in the bedroom allows individuals to decompress after a busy day.
- Encourages independence: Spending time alone can foster independence and self-reliance, especially in children and teenagers who need space to explore their own interests.
- Peace and quiet: The living room can often be noisy or busy, but in a bedroom, it’s easier to relax without distractions.
Cons of Bedroom Room Families:
- Less family interaction: Spending too much time apart can lead to feelings of disconnect, as there are fewer opportunities to bond with other family members.
- Reduced communication: Important conversations might not happen as often if everyone is always in separate rooms. This can lead to misunderstandings or a lack of emotional closeness.
As one commenter on the viral TikTok said, “I don’t know what a living room even is, I’ve been in my bedroom for most of my life!”
Which One Is Better?
The question of whether a living room or bedroom family is “better” doesn’t have a clear answer. What works for one family might not work for another. Some families thrive on constant interaction, while others need their own space to feel at peace.
I think a balance between communal time and personal space is key. Living room families might benefit from allowing some personal downtime, while bedroom families could try setting aside time for group activities to maintain close relationships. It’s all about what works for your family’s unique dynamic.
Growing up I was part of a living room family household but my kids were very much bedtime family kids. We had the occasional dance party, or video game tournament while they were young, but mostly they were, and still are, those young people who only emerge for food. what about you? Are you part of a living room family or a bedroom family?
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