What is it about some people that brings out the worst in others?
From what we have seen, Chrissie Swan is the perfect storm. She’s overweight, she’s a media personality AND she’s a working mother. In our eyes, she’s borne the brunt of some pretty horrible bullying in her time. And we don’t stand for the kind of behaviour at Mum Central.
The latest attack on our mate Chrissie was flat out ridiculous.
Chrissie Swan looks set to win Celeb. Not sure what it says about society that we reward a mother who leaves a 1 year old baby to chase fame
— Peter Ford (@mrpford) March 12, 2015
It’s not new news and if you were tuned in to any sort of media at all lately, you will know it’s already done the rounds but at our latest group meeting we discussed the injustice that seems to follow Chrissie around and we were all pissed off about it. Passionately pissed off. Like a group of friends might be. Because that’s what Chrissie Swan is for us. She is our friend on the TV. Our friend on the radio. Our friend on the interwebs. When she talks, we listen. When she laughs, we laugh. And when she cries – we hurt too. And like all good friends, we step in when we think she’s had enough.
Enough with the beat down of Chrissie.
So she just spent six weeks away from her children [one of them only one year old] for work and people everywhere were outraged. We’re sure that decision would not have been made lightly or without consultation with her husband. She’s a mother for f*ck’s sake. By all accounts, a loving and committed mother.
But she left her children!! How can a mother leave her children??
Because she’s a working mother people. She works for a living. Because to raise a family, there needs to be an income. Because sometimes, and certainly in this case, the bulk of that income comes from the mother.
But she left her children!!
Yes, she left her children… Yes she did. But let’s take a moment to acknowledge that she left them with their OTHER parent. Fathers leave their children with their OTHER parent ALL. THE. TIME. Working mothers all over the world do this every day. Mothers leave their children to work. Sometimes daily. Sometimes for weeks and sometimes for months. The truth is, it’s alien to many of us that a woman would choose to do so BUT it’s also totally relatable for just as many of us. The world is made up of billions of different parents. Our cultures, lifestyle choices and parenting decisions are challenged every day. Our guilt gland is triggered sometimes hourly and so we need to see real people making real decisions. We need people like Chrissie to show us the faultlessness of imperfection.
Chrissie left her kids so she could work. Chrissie’s work involves broadcast media. That’s not ‘chasing fame’. That’s her job. She earns a living entertaining the public at large. It might not be a job you would ever sign up for, or have the opportunity to do, but that’s her work nonetheless. And remember, this is the same woman who QUIT THE CIRCLE to spend more time with her children. Let’s also not forget that in addition to that being her JOB, her latest contract on I’m a Celebrity, Get Me Out Of Here! helped to raise much needed funds and awareness for her charity of choice, CARE Australia, whose core value just happens to be:
“We value and support gender equality and women’s empowerment.”
Now blow me down if that’s not Chrissie walking the walk.
We know she’s not asking for anyone to speak for her and, further, we know that she can do a fine job of that herself. There’s just this little niggling thing in our guts that’s, well niggling.
Because we kinda love Chrissie Swan. There. We said it. It’s hard not to, to be honest.
Is she perfect? Hell no. Are you? Am I? Is anyone? That’s the beauty of her though. She is perfectly flawed and quite possibly the realest personality in the public eye.
Why is that so offensive to everyone?
We think it’s because she’s so comfortable being vulnerable and though it is not often spoken about, vulnerability is a measure of great strength. It takes courage to lay oneself bare and that kind of raw honesty is scary for others.
But let’s focus on the positives here. Let’s celebrate this woman who showed us all that it’s possible to leave your children at home while you earn a living and still love them. Let’s applaud the woman who flat out refused to stand on the scales in that show, instead choosing to focus on her overall feelings of accomplishment and strength. Let’s celebrate the moment her role was defined in one single, heart-felt word “Mum?”
Check out this video of Chrissie in the Jungle we posted to our Facebook page recently, just watch it, and tell us that your heart didn’t skip a beat when she recognised her little one.
Peter Ford who started all this bullshit added fuel to the fire when he said
“I’m not criticising her. She can do what she wants. But I would go and clean toilets before I left a one year old baby. But that’s me. What she does is entirely her own business.”
Excuse me, but what a crock of shit [pun fully intended]. Chrissie has a career. Why the hell should she compromise her fulfilment of that career because it challenges other people’s sensitivities? Why does she have to defend that? Why do we have to write these kinds of articles?
We have always measured ourselves against others. In school. At work. As parents. Would you do what someone else does? Perhaps. Perhaps not. But does that make you righter than them or them wronger than you? We don’t know!
What we do know is, though she may not yet know it, we are Chrissie Swan’s friends and we stand by our friends.