Every mum has a master list in their mind of how they are going to raise their kids. I always promised myself I wouldn’t co-sleep (fail), I wouldn’t let my babies rely on dummies(fail) and I wouldn’t let my kids play with toy guns (fail).
Most mums will have a few other standard ‘rules’ in place that they may or may not adhere to once they are in the depths of parenting. These may include things like ‘no kissing baby on the lips’, ‘no visiting bub when sick’ and no junk food (for the first year or so at least). All pretty standard stuff, right?
But Aubriana, a mum in America has caused quite a stir on TikTok after sharing her controversial rules for her daughter that go a little above and beyond the standard ‘rules’ we make for ourselves.
Aubriana goes by The Organic Mami and has a daughter 10 months old. But she’s adamant that she’s sticking to her controversial rules which include no sleepovers, no alone time with any men (even family members), and no Western medicine if holistic medicine is available.
The young mum shares her unique list with her viewers while she talks to the camera and puts on her makeup (because that’s what people do on TikTok). She admits she knows the list is controversial, stating, “Call me crazy, IDC.” Her daughter. Her rules.
See the full list below:
Mum’s Controversial Rules for Raising Her Daughter
1. No to sleepovers
“Sleepovers are off the table, even with family members,” the mum shares.
Which is easy to say at 10 months but might become difficult when her daughter enters the tween years and is begging for slumber parties with her friends.
2. No to being left alone with a male
Aubriana then points out this includes males she knows, such as grandpa, uncle or cousins.
3. Yes to equal treatment as her brother
The young mum is expecting her second baby – a little boy – later in the year. Although he’s not here yet, she’s adamant that her daughter and him will follow the same rules.
“I won’t treat my daughter differently than I treat my son. For instance, like me letting my son go out late, but not my daughter, because it’s too dangerous for a woman. I’m just going to treat them both the same.”
4. No to secrets
The young mum is hoping for an open honest relationship with her daughter which means no secrets between them.
“Secrets will not be kept from your parents. I’m teaching her she can always come to me and never have to hide anything. As a mom, I’m not always right. And I make mistakes and I’ll own up to it and apologize.”
5. No to forced kisses, hugs or cuddles
This is something many parents completely agree with – children should not be forced to kiss or hug a family member or anyone else.
“She doesn’t have to kiss you, hug you, sit on your lap or anything else just because you asked her to and because you’re a relative and haven’t seen her in a long time.
She doesn’t have to respect you, if you don’t also respect her as a child.”
6. Yes to Mental Health Days
Mental Health Days are controversial for many as they normally mean skipping school and/or work to stay home and relax. Some believe kids don’t need these chill-out days while others do. Aubriana is in Camp Mental Health Days and will not apologise for her belief.
“We will take mental health days when needed and she’s allowed to express herself and learn to regulate her emotions.”
7. No to public school
We’re not sure if she means no public school in general, or simply, no to a school that bores her child.
Here’s what she said:
“We’re not going to do a public school system that makes you sit at a desk for eight hours and not learn anything you really care about.”
So perhaps she’s looking into homeschooling or an alternative schooling method.
8. Yes to Holistic medicine before Western Medicine
Aubriana is also very Pro Holistic Medicine and admits she won’t be relying on Western medicine if she doesn’t have to.
“We will always use holistic methods before we resort to Western medicine”.
9. No to finishing her meals
We’ve all been at the dinner table with a stubborn child who refuses to eat the dinner you slaved over for hours. Some of us will insist they eat the meal while others won’t. Aubriana admits she will never make her child finish a plate of food – or share her food.
She doesn’t mention if this includes the instances where the child refuses to eat the plate of food because the bread was cut the wrong way.
I’m not going to force her to share or force her to finish her plate of food.”
10. No to comments on her body
No ‘body’ talk allowed:
“I won’t ever talk poorly about myself in front of her and I won’t make comments about her appearance or her body image.”
11. No to “because I said so”
Another thing the mum promises she won’t do is let her daughter, “Because I said so.” I feel like she might waver on this one once her daughter is old enough to argue.
12. Yes to saying “No”
While “because I said so” is off the table, “no” is allowed.
“I’m teaching her to stand up for herself, set boundaries and say ‘no’.”
Probably a good lesson to teach our children and to remind ourselves of once in a while. It’s perfectly okay to say no.
13. Yes to daily affirmations
Although her daughter isn’t talking yet, that hasn’t stopped Aubriana from bringing positive energy to every day.
“We already started saying daily affirmations together. I want her to know her worth and not ever look to others for validation.”
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What do you think of the list?
