Becoming a parent can be terrifying. There are many unknowns, and you never feel like you’re doing it right. It’s true what they say: it takes a village to raise a child. It’s essential to build a strong, trustworthy community that you can call if you have a moment of doubt, your baby won’t stop crying, your relationship breaks down, or anything in between.
You might wonder what’s in it for you. Emotionally, a community provides a sense of belonging and camaraderie, reducing the isolation that can often accompany new parenthood. Practically, it offers a valuable network for sharing parenting tips, resources, and childcare responsibilities, easing the challenges and enhancing the overall wellbeing of both parents and children.
Additionally, this support system fosters a nurturing environment for personal growth and learning, creating lasting friendships and a foundation for a resilient and thriving family unit. Yep, it takes a village of support, so let’s help you find yours!
It takes a village to raise a child. Here’s how to find support
1. Start with small steps
Nurture your immediate circle, especially the one at home. Work on your connection with your partner, if you have one, so you become a strong team for your kids. If you are doing this single, spend some time with yourself. Work on your physical and mental health to be the best version of yourself.
2. Build an inner circle
Develop close relationships with a few trusted people. The ones you trust to call you out if you need it and that you feel safe to do the same.
3. Create an outer circle
Maybe you are an excellent cook, an amazing, engaging book reader, or a fantastic shoulder to cry on. Knowing your strengths and weaknesses makes it easier to recognise what you want to gain and what you can give to a group.
Focus on what interests you to find like-minded people, but don’t be afraid to step outside your comfort zone to meet new people or for your kids to make new friends.
4. Find local parenting groups
Join local parenting groups on social media platforms like Facebook or Meetup. These groups often organise playdates, parenting workshops, and other events.
Attend parenting classes or workshops in your area. This can be a great way to meet other new parents and share experiences.
5. Visit community centres and libraries
Check out your local community centres, libraries, or places of worship for parenting classes, story hours, or family events. These are often free or low-cost and provide opportunities to connect with other parents.
6. Attend playgroups
Look for local playgroups or playdates organised by community centres, libraries, or parenting groups. These informal gatherings provide a relaxed environment for parents and children to socialise.
7. Join online communities
Participate in online parenting forums and communities. Mum Central has a few Facebook groups that are a great place to start! Parenting forums can connect you with parents who share similar experiences and challenges.
Participate in online parenting groups focusing on specific topics like sleep training, breastfeeding, or baby-led weaning. This will allow you to connect with parents who share similar concerns and interests.
8. Connect with neighbours
Get to know your neighbours, especially those with children: Organise neighbourhood playdates, picnics, or casual get-togethers. Building relationships with local families can create a sense of community.
9. Use parenting apps
Several apps are designed to connect parents in the same area. These apps help you find playdates, share parenting tips, and create a local support network. The Peanut App is a great place to start.
10. Attend local events
Attend community events, fairs, or festivals. These gatherings often attract families and provide an opportunity to meet new people with similar interests.
11. Try parenting activity groups
Look for parenting groups specifically tailored to your interests or parenting style. Some groups focus on activities like hiking with babies, breastfeeding support, or baby-wearing.
12. Volunteer
Consider volunteering for community events or organisations. This can be a way to meet other parents while giving back to your community.
13. Join Parents and Citizens Associations (P&C)
If your child is old enough to attend school, join the P&C or attend school events. This is a great way to connect with other parents in your child’s class.
14. Fitness classes for parents
Join fitness classes designed for parents and babies. Classes like postnatal yoga or stroller fitness promote physical wellbeing and provide a chance to meet other parents.
15. Reach out to old acquaintances
Reconnect with old friends and acquaintances who have children. Reestablishing connections can be a comfortable way to expand your network.
Building a community can be daunting, even for an extrovert. Take your time. It doesn’t have to be rushed. Making the effort to build close, strong relationships will benefit you in the long run. Give as much as you get and make newcomers feel as welcome as you did.
It takes a village to raise children. And you can build a great one even if you’re not a people person. If the pandemic taught us anything, it’s that we can make connections online and that life is meant to be lived. So, get out there, build your village and live your best life!
