“Take a look at this video and tell me this is how a 11-year-old girl should feel coming home from school.”
This is the plea a desperate father has made on Facebook after his daughter, Sienna had a panic attack over a Snapchat bullying incident.
The video, which is quite confronting to watch, focuses on Lee’s 11-year-old daughter and his wife, Natalie Davies, as she tries to calm the distraught kid down.
Sienna can barely breathe, let alone speak about what has happened. Any attempt to try and get the words out results in more tears and anxiety.
I hate to put things on Facebook that would show the pain that my children are going through but for 6 weeks now since starting comprehensive school my daughter has been emotionally bullied on a daily basis! I have contacted Cyfarthfa high school numerous times now and explained that both myself and her mother have serious concerns about the emotional health of our daughter and that I need this situation sorted. I have asked many times for her to be moved to a different form class yet they keep telling me that they need to speak to other teachers and have had no sign of showing any concerns like it’s us parents being overly protective!!! Well this is a snap shot of the many occasions that my daughter has been upset. It’s all too much now and I feel like as parents we are bashing our heads against a brick wall with the school. Take a look at this video and tell me this is how a 11 year old girl should feel coming home from school. Bullying is not acceptable by any means and needs to stop! Please do not hesitate to share this post as I would never want to see another child feel like this!!!* UPDATE *Hi all,Firstly I would like to thank each and everyone of you for your advice, heartfelt comments & amazing support on this matter. The exposure that this video has received is overwhelming and it shows that this issue affects so many people on so many different levels. It takes a very strong person to allow others to see them when they are at their most vulnerable and I am so proud of my daughter for allowing me to share with you all how the actions of others have affected her! Due to not getting the results that we wanted as parents from the school I had no option but to use the power of social media to make people lift their heads and act on this matter before it spiralled out of control. I can happily say that now we have had a meeting with the school and are working towards a solution to ensure this never happens again. I would like to say that I have the utmost respect for teachers and I appreciate greatly the job they do to provide our children with the education for a bright future, however I definitely believe that there are a minority who take the issue to lightly and like in this particular case poor communication was to blame! From the outcome of this situation I firmly believe that there needs to be a more strict approach to the issue of bullying and the reporting process definitely needs to be revised by the education board. This video shows the ‘behind closed doors’ reaction of children who are struggling with bullying, be it physical or emotional. Please ensure you always stress to your child that it’s not a sign of weakness to show emotion and that talking to you is the most important thing! Your comments seem to have lifted a weight off her shoulders as she has seen first hand how she was not the only one who has been in this situation and how much support is out there! Once again thank you to everyone who has sent us messages, both us as parents and Sienna are extremely grateful xxhttps://www.walesonline.co.uk/news/education/heartbreaking-video-shows-true-impact-15277230
Posted by Lee Davies on Wednesday, October 10, 2018
The effects of bullying, behind closed doors
It’s awful to watch. And it would be even worse to witness. Sienna could be any of our kids. And Natalie could be any one of us, overwhelmed with worry and sadness watching our children suffer.
Like many concerned parents, Lee had enough. Despite speaking to the school on numerous occasions, nothing was being done. So he posted the video (with permission from Sienna) in hopes it would get the school’s attention.
With the video, he shared this message:
I hate to put things on Facebook that would show the pain that my children are going through, but for 6 weeks now since starting school my daughter has been emotionally bullied on a daily basis!
I have contacted Cyfarthfa High School numerous times now… yet they keep telling me they need to speak to other teachers and have had no sign of showing any concerns – like it’s us parents being overly protective!
Take a look at this video and tell me this is how a 11-year-old girl should feel coming home from school. Bullying is not acceptable by any means and needs to stop!”
Father’s Facebook post gets results
Lee’s emotional plea worked. Just recently Lee updated his post, thanking everyone for the support and explaining that the family met with the school and “are working towards a solution to ensure this never happens again”.
Lee also shares some invaluable words of wisdom to other parents who may be experiencing the same thing:
Please ensure you always stress to your child that it’s not a sign of weakness to show emotion and that talking to you is the most important thing!”
This needs to stop
Sienna isn’t the first child to be bullied. Every day countless children come home from school in tears. Some hide it from their parents. Others seek help. Some can fight past it and walk away from the bullying. Others cannot and see no other option but to end their lives.
Lee had a difficult decision to make when he decided to post that video. But we are so grateful he did. Because everyone needs to know the effects of bullying and understand that this is NOT ACCEPTABLE.
Talk to your kids. Teach them that it’s not okay to bully or be bullied. And, like Lee, don’t be afraid to step up and speak out if your child does need help.
Where to get help
Bullying in schools is a major concern across Australia. If you or anyone you know needs help, please contact:
- Lifeline on 13 11 14
- Kids Helpline on 1800 551 800
- MensLine Australia on 1300 789 978
- Suicide Call Back Service on 1300 659 467
- Beyond Blue on 1300 22 46 36
- Headspace on 1800 650 890
And make sure to know the signs to look for if you suspect your child is being bullied online or at school .