Throughout high school, I was on the larger side and often found myself the target of crude jokes about my weight, particularly related to sexuality. However, I’ve discovered through personal experience that those jokes couldn’t be further from the truth. I’ve enjoyed incredible sexual experiences, proving that pleasure isn’t limited by body size. I’m here to affirm that BBW (Big Beautiful Women) can totally have amazing sex, and once you’re comfortable with your body, can lead to a fulfilling and exciting plus-size sex life.
It’s crucial to understand that enjoyable and satisfying sexual experiences are not exclusive to any specific body type. Being overweight should never be viewed as an obstacle to a gratifying and intimate sex life.
So here are 7 of my favourite tips for a fulfilling and comfortable sexual experience, regardless of your body type.
1. Plus-size sex: It all starts with self-confidence
Start by building self-confidence and body positivity. Remember that your body is unique and beautiful in its own way. Loving and accepting yourself is essential for a satisfying sex life.
Be aware of your privacy and comfort levels. Ensure that you are in a space where you feel safe and secure, which will allow you to be more relaxed and enjoy the experience. Anyone who doesn’t make you feel like the goddess you are, might not be worth your time.
2. Communication is key
Open and honest communication with your partner is key. Discuss your desires, preferences, and any concerns you may have. Be clear if there’s something you don’t like. You’re not obligated to enjoy everything because you don’t fit the mould of what is considered ‘normal’. Sharing your thoughts and feelings with your partner can help create a comfortable and understanding atmosphere.
3. Focus on foreplay
Spend more time on foreplay to build excitement and intimacy. Kissing, touching, and other forms of sensual contact can enhance the overall experience and create a strong emotional connection. Your pleasure matters.
4. Comfortable positions
Experiment with different sexual positions to find what works best for you and your partner. Some positions may be more comfortable and enjoyable for people with larger bodies. Focus on positions that allow for easy movement and access.
Here are some of the best plus-size sex positions.
SIDE NOTE: Here are my picks for the BBW sex positions (this is my opinion remember and everyone is different).
- Missionary with a Twist: In the traditional missionary position, the larger partner can add a pillow or two under their hips to create a better angle for penetration.
- Cowgirl or Cowboy: This position allows the person on top to control the depth and speed of penetration, giving them more agency and comfort during sex.
- The T-square Position: The receiving partner lies on their back in this position with their legs spread apart as wide as possible. The penetrating partner, on the other hand, lies just under the arch that has been formed by the raised legs of their partner, making a ‘T’ with their bodies. Legs can be kept straight up, bent at the knee over the penetrating partner’s back, or between the partners.
- Doggy Style with Modifications: In the doggy style position, the receiving partner can kneel on the bed and rest their upper body on pillows for support. This modification can help align bodies more comfortably.
- Spooning: The receiver lies on their side, and the penetrating partner enters from behind. A variation of spooning has the larger partner facing their partner while lying on their side.
- The Bridge: The bridge position involves the larger partner supporting themselves on their hands and feet, creating an arch. The other partner can kneel between their legs, allowing for deeper penetration and a unique angle.
- Scissoring: In this position, both partners lie on their sides facing each other with one leg draped over the other’s hips. It provides a snug fit and can be particularly enjoyable for larger individuals.
- The Butterfly: The receiving partner lies on their back with their legs lifted and spread. The penetrating partner kneels in front for easy access and control, making it a great choice for comfort and pleasure.
- Sitting Sex: Find a sturdy chair, and the larger partner can sit while the other straddles their lap.
5. Pillows, support and sex aids
- PILLOWS: Use pillows or cushions to provide extra support and comfort during sex. These can help lift and support your body, making it easier to maintain certain positions and reducing discomfort. Some sex toy stores have specially designed sex furniture which makes some positions more fun and enjoyable. And you can still be a BDSM babe if you’re perfectly plump.
- LUBRICATION: Using a good-quality lubricant can enhance comfort and pleasure, especially if you experience chafing or dryness. It can also reduce friction and make sex more enjoyable. For an extra spicy time, look at warming or cooling lubes and thank me later.
- BODY-POSITIVE LINGERIE: Wearing lingerie or clothing that makes you feel attractive and confident can boost your self-esteem. There are many options available for people of all body types. Wear it for your self-confidence before you wear it for your partner’s enjoyment. Black lace looks great on everyone.
6. Exercise and fitness
Engaging in regular physical activity, even if it’s light exercise, can help improve stamina and flexibility, making sexual activities more comfortable and enjoyable. Yoga is especially good for building flexibility. And the more flexible you are, the more positions you can do.
7. Regular health check-ups
It’s essential to prioritise your health, as this can positively impact your sexual experiences. Regular check-ups with a healthcare provider can help you address any health concerns or conditions that may be affecting your sex life. You should also get a sexual health check-up every time you get a new partner.
If you’re struggling with body image issues or are experiencing physical discomfort during sex, consider seeking support from a therapist or counsellor who specialises in sexual health and self-esteem. They can provide guidance and strategies to overcome these challenges.
Remember that your body size or shape does not determine your worth and your ability to enjoy a fulfilling sex life. Confidence, communication, and a supportive partner are vital components of a satisfying and enjoyable sexual experience.
It’s important to focus on your own comfort, pleasure, and well-being and to prioritise your emotional and physical health.
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